How To Keep Commitment To Yourself (3 Ways)
How to keep commitment to yourself?
As the new year approaches, most of us take resolutions and look forward to making our lives even better in many different areas but do we actually stick to those commitments we make to ourselves?
Studyshows that more than 64% of people forget about their resolution within one month of starting it. I know it’s quite shocking but I have been there myself.
We make commitments to ourselves but hardly fulfill them.
Did you ever think about why that happens in the first place?
I have even realized that many many times even when people are serious about their resolutions, they quit just because they aren’t sure if they’ll ever be able to achieve what they want to.
Their self-doubt kicks in and makes them quit their life-changing commitment.
So, this year when you make a commitment to yourself, how to fulfil them?
Do you know that when we finally keep commitment to ourselves, we not only achieve what we wanted to but there are TONs of other long term benefits we get?
- When you keep the commitment to yourself, you build self-trust and self-confidence. Because next time you’ll know that no matter what, if you make this commitment, you’ll keep it.
- You can make quick decisions.
- The chances of self-doubt get minimal.
- You then tend to keep a commitment to other people as well, which is really important in any personal and professional life.
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Why do we break commitments we make to ourselves
Here are a few reasons why we break commitments to ourselves
We choose “comfort” over action
You decide that you will start waking up earlier from tomorrow and start working out but when the alarm rings in the next morning you just snooze it and think that you still have time so you can sleep a few more minutes then hours after when you wake up you are like shit, not again!
It becomes a kind of cycle that we repeat every day and put ourselves down because we couldn’t do what we told ourselves that we would.
But if you want to change that you must choose action over comfort.
Related- 7 ways to overcome procrastination.
We take them lightly
When it comes to fulfilling promises we make to other people, we make sure that we do that but we often take our own promises lightly.
Maybe because we think that it’s not important enough or we are selfish if we choose to put ourselves first.
But even if you are aware of the fact that it’s important for you, we get stuck in what ifs. What if something goes wrong or what if I can’t achieve what I want to.
Rather than getting yourself stuck in thoughts like that, start reframing your mindset that helps you lead in the right direction and start focusing on how you can do that.
Because when you start shifting your mindset, you start seeing results.
Related- How to set goals and achieve them.
How To Keep Commitment To Yourself
Below are the three ways you can start doing to fulfill your promises you made to yourself and start achieving your goals.
What value is it going to add in your life?
It all starts with a why. Before making any commitment to yourself it’s important to know why this commitment you are going to make is important for you.
Ask these questions before making any commitment to yourself:
- How is it going to change your life? (Financially/physically/spiritually/etc.)
- What value is it going to add into your life?
- How will it help you become a better version of yourself?
Let me tell you this: I had a habit of prioritizing tasks that were urgent but not important.
Health can be the most common example here.
We often neglect our health not because we don’t know how important it is but because we are focusing on the things that are urgent and need our attention at this moment.
Shifting my attention from the things that were urgent for me to things that were important and start prioritizing them as much as the other one is one of the best thing you can do to fulfill your commitment.
I am not saying that we shouldn’t focus on the urgent tasks but it’s better not to forget about the important ones because it’s the one that is going to change your life in the long run.
Seeing the bigger picture will help you prioritize the tasks.
I even have an article on how to set priorities in life, check that out if you struggle to set priorities.
Less is more
Are you guilty of making commitments that were not realistic, you knew you might not be able keep for long or lost interest in them after a few days? Honestly, we all are.
This time just make 1-2 commitment at a time, make action plans for them and just focus on how you can achieve those one or two, set proper deadlines so you will know how long it will take as a lot of us expect instant result and when we don’t get it, we give up.
Always ask questions to yourself so things start getting clear in your head. Here are another 2 questions you need to ask yourself before making any big commitment.
- What you need to invest before you start seeing any return (especially if you have kids or you have a busy schedule).
- What are your expectations?
There is only little hope when we commit something to us in the beginning but as we start working on it, day by day we build self-trust.
PS: In the beginning, make one small commitment to yourself and fulfil that. For example: eating a fruit every day or working out even for 10 minutes.
When you start making commitments to yourself it’s normal that you will fail a few times in the starting but it happens to all of us because you are trying to do something out of your comfort zone which is unknown and scary but slowly and over time you will be used to it and it will get a lot easier.
Be patient and trust in yourself.
Take responsibility
When you go to the bed at the end of the day it’s either your success or your failure and that being said we must take responsibility for it.
Being responsible can simply mean that we hold ourselves accountable for our actions, our time, fulfil promises we make to ourselves, organize our life, and look after ourselves and others.
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