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7 Self love habits That I swear By!
Just 3 years back, if you’d asked me what the heck is self love, I probably would not be able to answer that as it was an alien concept to me. I did not know that we need to love ourselves maybe because of my upbringing and the culture I grew up in. I was always told how we need to selflessly love others but never in my childhood I was taught how to love my own self.
I believe in some parts of the world (including where I am from) it’s bad to put yourself at the center of your life. We are taught to put others like your parents then your husband and kids etc.
If you had asked me in my childhood days or as a lost teenage girl how much I love myself out of 10, I’d probably say 2 or 3. Yep that’s it. Not because I didn’t want to give myself all the beautiful things this world has to offer but I was clueless, and I didn’t want to sound selfish.
Yes, it’s considered selfish if you want to put yourself first and be your real self. I have always been an introvert that didn’t like much interaction with others and I would get alot of judgment.
Words like that took a toll on me not once not twice but most of the time whenever I go out and meet my relatives and other people. I would get to hear the same thing over and over again. You slowly start to dislike yourself as if it was not enough for the world to dislike you and make you count how many things you are missing.
You lose self esteem and confidence and you no longer feel that you deserve what you wished for as a little kid. Because now at one point everyone out there seems to be better and smarter than you.
So how can you make better choices for yourself, how can you stay consistent on your goals when you stop believing in your abilities? It’s very difficult as you no longer have any support system to rely on.
The one thing I found helpful is that you need to get up and stop putting up all the BS. Stand up for yourself, develop self love habits and believe in yourself when no one in the world does. It is no easy task but it is possible and I am here to tell you can do it.
Do you know the most important lesson I have learned from all this?
Most People don’t really think twice what their words could do to affect someone’s mental wellbeing- yes, after putting up all the opinions and judgments I have finally come to realization that when someone say anything to you, in most cases they don’t think about what they are saying and how it can affect others mental wellbeing. We are responsible to take care of ourselves and our mental health.
You have to fill your cup. You then give away the overflowing, but you keep a cupful for yourself. -Wynonna Judd
Slowly, I have started to incorporate some self love habits in my daily routine that help me stay connected with me and make me content with myself.
By the way- If you are struggling to love yourself and can’t figure out how to take the first step, here is complete step by step guide that I recommend you to check out first then come back to this post.
Here are they:
7 Daily Self Love Habits That Changed My Life
1) Check In With Yourself Everyday
Checking in with yourself is one of the most important self love habits that involves pausing regularly to assess your emotional, mental, and physical state because how many of us regularly check in with ourselves to see what’s going on in our mind? Maybe just few.
When you check in with yourself on a regular basis, it gets much easier for you to understand what is going on in your mind and body.
This step is even important if you have a hard time concentrating on your task and you can’t live in the present moment. That means there’s something (maybe a thought) that is holding you back.
Start with setting daily and weekly intentions behind your goals so you can understand why you are doing what you’re doing.
2) Make Your Boundaries Clear To Yourself
I am active on a lot of facebook support groups and I always see people talking about what kind of treatment they are getting. Not just from others but I realized when we don’t have clear boundaries we tend to mistreat our own selves- let people mistreat us, choose to do things that we are not interested in, don’t give us respect enough to walk from anything that doesn’t align with us.
It’s crucial to have boundaries and make them clear to yourself. See how it improves your life. You’ll save yourself from a lot of drama.
It will make your life a lot easier.
3) Take yourself out for a date
Have you thought about getting yourself out on a date? It is one of the best ways to build a healthy relationship with yourself (it’s important to do it with a positive attitude though).
We all have that little child inside of us that needs constant love, assurance and attention and when you don’t give all these things to yourself, it will find it in others. That’s how we depend on other people for our happiness.
Since I was in college, I often go to a restaurant by myself. It was something I was scared of in the beginning but after a couple of uncomfortable visits, I started going more and more.
Even if you are in a relationship, I’d recommend you to do it once in a while. Here are 100 solo date ideas for you to try (in any season).
4) Be Kind With Yourself In Your Mind
If you need one self love habit from this list, it has to be this one because most of the time we are our own worst critics. We constantly talk bad about ourselves in our own mind,
While constructive criticism is good for our growth, we don’t stop there and make assumptions in our mind- what if I didn’t make that mistakes in the past, what if I hadn’t done that, what if I took that chance 2 years ago and so on.
Have you ever thought if you had spoken the same way to your friends as you do it in your mind, would they still be your friend? If I talk about myself, I’d like to know my mistakes so I won’t make it next time but I’d never ever want a friend who constantly reminds me of my mistakes 24/7, every day.
You get the point, right? Improve your self talk with the help of affirmations. These are positive phrases that I love.
TIP– Make sticky notes and keep them in a place where you can easily see and access them, such as on your desk, computer monitor, or a bulletin board.
- 100 Positive Affirmations For A Productive Day.
- 51 Powerful Affirmations For Self-Love And Healing.
- 30 Fun Positive Affirmations To Wake Up Energized In The Morning.
- 41 Sunday Affirmations To Help You Recharge For The Week.
5) Create a Playlist Of Your Uplifting Songs
This one is fun. I have a playlist of uplifting songs both on spotify and youtube and I listen to them to boost my mood while working out, in the park or anytime.
6) Have a sustainable morning routine
Just waking up earlier isn’t enough, you want to have a proper morning routine so you can start your day productively and intentionally.
This one highly depends on what your morning schedule and responsibility looks like. If you can spend 1 hour on yourself then great but if you have only 15 minutes, you got this too!
Waking up with a good mood will make your day better and much more productive.
- Start here- 3 Simple Steps To Create a Summer Morning Routine To Wake Up Energized And Fresh Every Morning .
- My Cozy Fall Morning Routine.
- How To Have A Mindful Morning Routine.
7) Take Criticism and Judgements Lightly
There is no shortage of criticism and judgements. You will get a lot without asking for it. You will get judged for your looks, weight, personality and this is something we can’t always control. What we can do is set boundaries (as we discussed above) and take them with a pinch of salt.
As long as you take them lightly and do not let other people’s opinion become your reality, you will be good. Remember you know yourself better than anyone else in this world.
That was 7 self love habits that I hope you found helpful, which one habit are you going to add in your daily routine? Do let me know in the comments below!
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Ruth Gift says
These habits are not just about self-care but also about building a healthier relationship with oneself. Thanks for sharing these practical tips—I’m definitely inspired to incorporate them into my daily routine!