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We all are living with some toxic habits.
Sometimes you are aware of them but can’t decide how to stop, and other times you don’t even realize that you are living with some of these toxic habits.
But in both situations, living with any of these habits can hold you back from living a fulfilling life.
In today’s post, I will share 13 toxic habits that you need to quit if you want to live a better and more fulfilling life. Let’s get started.
13 Toxic Habits to Quit To Live a Fulfilling Life
Always seeking external validation
It’s our basic human tendency to seek external validation.
Suppose you did a great job at work, and your manager is also impressed with the outcome you produced, and he appreciate you.
Would you be happy about it? Of course. It’s external validation that’s making you happy, but we love when we get an appreciation for our efforts. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
Problems start when we depend too much on other people’s opinions.
Let’s take a different example here: Let’s say you work for a company where nobody appreciates your efforts no matter what you do, and you feel stuck in a job and desperately looking for ways to get out of it.
You thought you could start your own business and finally leave your soul-sucking job.
You research and make a proper plan and talk to one of your family members and tell them what you’re thinking about, and suddenly they are like: “work is not for fun, and people still do it; you are not the only one” or “it happens to all of us,” or maybe they don’t like your business idea at all.
Now you are confused because nobody is validating your idea of starting a business.
If you depend on external validation, you would probably drop the idea of starting a business and stay in your “comfort zone.”
Who knows if you really went out your way and started that damn business, you would be happy, and you no longer have to hate the work you do.
It’s all about balance; too much dependency is bad and holds us from getting out of our comfort zone, which is why most of us continue to live a life we don’t like.
Understanding when external validation is holding you back is key, and that’s how you can stop relying on it.
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Besides being such a waste of time, gossip can ruin a relationship with the person you are gossiping about.
It can destroy the reputation of that person as well as yours. People will then start seeing you as someone who always has something to gossip about, and most probably, next time, they will think twice before sharing their personal experiences or stories with you.
As humans, we all have something good and something bad in us, and it’s a good idea to give other people the benefit of the doubt and think about how we would feel if someone did something like that to us.
And I am sure none of us would want that, right?
So, next time when you think you’re gossiping about other people, be a little more mindful of your thought and see how your life gets better.
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Waking up at random hours
Do you usually sleep and wake up at random hours? If the answer is yes, you must change this toxic habit as soon as possible, especially if you can relate to any of these:
- Your day might not be as you wanted it to be.
- You feel lazy and tired all the time.
- You often miss your breakfast (some studies show that it’s the most important meal of the day)
- You don’t get any time for yourself.
- You have to rush to your computer as soon as you wake up.
- Mood swings are also common for people who sleep and wake up at random hours.
Not living below your means.
Do you have a habit of spending more money, and this habit of yours makes you regret it later? If so, then this is the time to change that.
If you are serious about your finances, here are a few ways to do that:
- Plan your budget.
- Cut out unnecessary expenses.
- Open a separate savings account and start saving there.
- If you are going to make a big purchase, wait for 2 days and then decide if you really want that.
Comparing yourself to other people
We compare ourselves to others because we consistently remind ourselves that we are not good enough, and when we do certain things by a certain age, like other people then our parents and this society will start taking us more seriously.
And in order to be like that person, we compare ourselves without even realizing that it’s not benefiting us in any good way.
Trust me, no matter how much you already have, there will always be people who will have more than you do.
Comparing yourself with someone else means that you are sabotaging your own happiness.
Assuming instead of asking questions
In order to learn something new and know other people’s perspectives, it’s essential to ask questions.
Getting jealous of other people’s success
Do you have a habit of scrolling IG and getting jealous of other people’s holidays, their brand new dresses, and shoes?
Does it make you overthink, and then you start doubting that you are not good enough to have all those kinds of stuff?
Instead of comparing yourself, knowing their stories of how they have done what enabled them to become successful in such a short time could be life-changing for you.
You want to figure out everything before you even started
Have you had a situation when you start feeling like you need to figure out everything or you won’t get what you want?
The reality is you only figure out things when you start doing it, and trust me, you don’t need to figure out everything because it’s not even realistic.
Even the most successful people in the world can’t say they have figured everything out.
And when we think we have figured something out, life throws the next challenge at us, and we think we are back to square one.
But needing to have figured everything out is the wrong approach that holds us back from growing and learning new things.
Deciding your future based on your past
All of us fail at some point in our lives, and you think you can’t do much because of that one failure that happened to you in the past.
That’s not entirely true.
Failures are not always bad; they often close the doors that are not meant for us so we can start seeing the opportunity that’s far better for us in the long run.
Not appreciating other people’s efforts.
Do you have this bad habit, or maybe you are living around someone who never appreciates other people’s efforts?
This habit can ruin the whole relationship because when we put effort into making someone happy, we expect them to appreciate our efforts.
Next time when someone does something for you, even a small thing to put a smile on your face, don’t forget to appreciate them. (:
Sabotaging your happiness
We all want to be happy, but sometimes we sabotage our own happiness through our own limited beliefs and wrong mindset.
Here are a few other habits that we do that sabotage our own happiness that, includes-
- Think of what people think of you.
- Not feeling worthy of happiness.
- Our conditioning also plays a huge role too.
- We always want everything to be perfect.
Judging other people
One of the most toxic habits to quit is judging other people.
Judgment is a sign of unhappiness. When we are not happy with ourselves, we start judging other people, including our close family members and friends.
Everyone on this planet is trying the best they can, and they appreciate us when we understand them and their situations instead of when we try to put them down.
Nobody likes to be judged; we all want to be understood.
Not fulfilling your promises.
Trust is the backbone of any relationship, and you risk it when you don’t keep the promises you make.
If you aren’t sure that you will be able to fulfill a promise, don’t just say yes instantly and take your time and then make your decision.
I hope you found this article useful and if you did, please let me know in the comment box below.
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