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Here are 12 Things To Let Go Of To Be Truly Happy..
“Sometimes letting go is the hardest thing to do, but it is also the most important thing you can do for yourself.” -Unknown
A few years ago, I was also in the process of letting go and starting a new life (right after graduating college with a degree in computer science at the age of 22).
It was not an easy phase.
I felt that my life was like asking me to let go of so many things and getting ready for the new challenges.
It was asking me to let go of my comfort zone, an easy job where I just could have not had that many hardships and sometimes sleep at night too so I can start this blog and make a living from it.
(The journey hasn’t been easy at all).
I was afraid to let down people who had expectations from me who thought I would make them proud by doing something that I was supposed to do. (study well, get a decent job for a secure future).
Over the last 3 years, I have done things that I never thought I would do or I am capable of doing if I hadn’t started my little corner on the internet.
I really believe we don’t know what we can do just because we have never done it and we are not letting go of our old fear and failures that are holding us back.
In this post, I will be sharing my top 12 Things to let go of to be truly happy (that helped me become my happier self and I hope it could help you do the same).
12 Things To Let Go Of To Be Truly Happy
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1) Let Go Of Comparing Your Life Story To Others
We all are guilty of doing this. Deep inside we know that our surroundings, childhood, experiences and almost everything has been different from the person we are comparing ourselves to. But somehow it’s easy to compare as it makes us feel that we are not the only ones in this situation.
I think that there’s another way to look at it- when someone shares their stories and if you find their journey relatable to you or if they got success, it is a good idea to get inspired and learn from them to move forward in life and make your life better for you.
Comparison only makes us anxious and puts us down. After all, it’s just a perception that makes all the difference. It can make you feel anxious or it can also make you feel inspired.
Check out: How To Not Compare Yourself And Live A Peaceful Life.
2) Letting Go Of Relationships Where Forgiveness Has No Place
Mistakes are inevitable, we make so many of them. While I believe some mistakes are just not forgivable, there are lots of tiny mistakes that we make in our day to day life and in that case, there should always be a place to work things out and forgive each other.
But instead if you are reminded to feel guilty for your small mistakes every single day maybe it’s time to let go of that relationship.
This doesn’t only apply in romantic relationships but also in friendships, family and almost any kind of a relationship.
3) Letting Go Of Guilt
On the other hand, If you are the one who has made a mistake, it’s also important that you forgive yourself too.
4) Letting Go Of Your Past Failures
This one is definitely easier said than done. The truth is past failures are there to live with you forever. You just can never change them.
But as we talked about perception, how you see them can make all the difference. They can inspire you to reflect back and realize that the failure was the best thing that ever happened to you.
They helped you become more self aware so you could be in a better place in the future. Maybe they taught you the lessons you needed to learn.
I’d highly recommend that you face your past failures, reflect back and see what you learned from them.
How To Overcome Your Past Failures.
5) Letting Go Of Our Ego And Pride
“Ego is the false self-born out of fear and defensiveness.” -John O’Donohue
Have you ever felt that you are behaving or showing yourself in a certain way that is not you but you are doing that so you can protect yourself from outside judgment?
Ego doesn’t let us be who we are and once you let it go you can freely be who you are without worrying about shame and judgments.
6) Let Go Of The Urge To Control Everything
If one lesson I learned after starting this blog, this has to be it. It taught me to be patient and consistent. It helped me to let things be as they are and not try to control everything- because we just can’t.
7) Let Go Of Perfection
Many of us miss so many great opportunities because we wait for ourselves or the situation to be perfect. Know that we, as humans, are naturally imperfect and we have all the flaws. We are not always in the best shape or mood. We make mistakes, learn and grow.
8) Let Go Of Unrealistic Expectations
They say you have to limit your expectations from other people but what about the expectations we pose on ourselves? And when we can’t fulfill that, it doesn’t feel good and makes you doubt yourself. When it comes to promising yourself, always under promise and over deliver, you will never regret it.
9) Let Go The Fear Of Failure
And the fear is very common- if you start something, it takes your time, efforts, money and everything in between. Thinking about failures is normal but as long as you have a plan in place and it’s worth taking a chance, please do not wait, this fear will be there no matter when you start.
10) Let Go Of Busyness
Being busy does not mean being productive and staying busy does not always mean you will achieve more. We are living in a time where staying busy is considered and often relates to hard work. But it’s not always true.
11) Let Go Of The Fear To Be Left Out
I have had this fear in me- for the longest time. And I am sure that most of the people fear this too. As humans we want to be connected and loved.
Since I started to spend more and more time with myself and going out, performing activities that I always wanted to do, it made me comfortable with spending time with me and I am getting better at working on this fear of mine.
- If you are unsure, start here- 100 solo date ideas to build a healthy relationship with yourself.
- 10 ways to make the most out of your solo date.
12) Let Go Of Tomorrow
Just like not worrying about yesterday is crucial to live in the present, thinking about tomorrow is not going to make you happy in this moment either.
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